Single Woman- Over 45- Online dating

I’m compelled, in honour of International Women’s day today, to share my stories about being over 40 and navigating my way thru online dating or just dating in general…..LOL…

As a survivor of domestic abuse, during my marriage, it took many years before I was comfortable in dating again. I became a single parent in October 2000 and I started “looking around” for a new partner around 2005. Boy what a job!!!!! I set up a profile on one of those free websites (nameless) and started my hunt….

I had a few dates with a few different men, but we never got to the second date……Some of the undesirables, included a guy that was MAD AT THE WORLD and wanted to sue EVERYBODY that did him or his kids an injustice, then a guy that was bald and questioned why I kept my hair short! Would I consider growing it long for him – “oh, but long hair is so sexy”, some other guy that I swear was married, and was closet dating. We had two dates and then I never heard back from him. Another, that seemed to have an issue because I wouldn’t pick up the few pistachio shells on the theatre floor, while we watched a movie. One that was an Executive for a furniture company – we had two dates, including a movie marathon at his condo complete with snacks and pizza and alcohol. We talked a lot online as he preferred to get to know me this way, than being in person. He was very ROMANTIC on paper and then out of the blue, wanted to move things right along, but oh, I still had kids living at home. Oh sorry that won’t work – I’m not willing to wait.

Then along came my heart’s desire in July 2009. He had his own business, loved to cook, was very tidy, owned his own home, smelled good and used such nice loving words….But he was a workaholic and just not prepared to work a little less. Albiet, we were together for just over 6 years. Then I just couldn’t wait anymore.

My BFF’s all want me to find that Mr. Right and be happy. Well I am happy. I am content, I love my life, I have family, friends, a car, a decent job, a decent place to live, lots of outdoor interests, 3 cats. I have my reading, my crafting, my swimming (!), my life goals, my wine, excellent health and lots of restaurants/spas to choose from when my bff’s and I wanna have girl time.

I certainly would enjoy company at nite to talk to, share with, vent with, rejoice with, but our Good Lord has another plan for me.  I REFUSE TO DWELL ON WHAT I DON’T HAVE, instead I rejoice and give thanks for what I do have…..

From one content, AWESOME, FABULOUS, FANTASTIC 54 year old single woman, I tell you this: Ladies – live your life, not someone else’s…..As I like to say (an adage about self empowerment) “What you think of me, is none of my business”.

Thank you for reading and for letting me share. Joye